August 30, 2006
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After my last entry aradne asked me about the scary factor in being a parent. I told her that I could write an entire entry on that question and here it is:
A big part that freaks me out is that she's a girl. I'm a boy who grew up with five younger brothers; I don't know a thing about raising a girl. Since I was the oldest I was forced into helping to raise my brothers; but the rough and tumble world of boys is a lot different from the world of Barbie and My Little Pony. Even in my extended family there isn't a single "girly girl" so I guess it may not matter too much because she's probably destined to be pretty tomboyish anyway.
There’s also the common protection fear. I can’t be around her every moment, so others will be responsible for her safety. She’s already been injured once due to the negligence of another and when I first got the news I immediately wanted to grab the person and just shake her until her brain turned back on. If anything really serious ever happened I don’t know if I’d be able to control myself if the person was near when I received the news.
The biggest part for me though is money. I’m afraid that I won’t be able to provide her with the things that she wants. It takes a lot financially to raise a child, that’s why I didn’t intend to have a child until later in life; but now I don’t have that choice and I fear she’ll be disappointed in the future because of it. I want her to have every opportunity in the world and I’m scared that I might be able to give her that.
Comments (4)
i dont think she'll be to dissapointed if she doesnt get much when she's younger. my family had somewhat of the same problem, somehow we were never the kids that cried when we didnt get things. crazy? i think so. but then again, different kids have different tempraments (sp is horrible sorry)
anyway, metro is super "old school" if i dare say, about its checks. no direct deposit, and our credit card machine is still from like from fifteen years ago. well, maybe more recent than that... it doesnt print the recipt, we have to do the "kachunk" thing. if that makes any sense at all.
indeed
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my parents didn't have a lot of money when i was growing up but honestly i never noticed until they actually told me that they didn't later on. i was a huge daddy's girl...still am i suppose...and just spending time with my parents was good enough for me. i know you want to protect her from everything but even if you are around her all the time, you can't
oh, you have a beautiful little girl, btw...
She won't be spoiled, and that's a good thing.
I was never into Barbie and My Little Pony when I was a kid... And most of the girls I've babysat for weren't either. It's not too tough. (Just don't get sucked into a game of Pretty Pretty Princess.... )
And I guess when you're not with her, it's okay to worry. It's natural, even.
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